- The original meaning is a period of time that parents spend bonding with a recently-born baby.
- More recently, the term has come to be used to describe a vacation taken by a couple that is expecting a baby so that they can “enjoy one last trip together” before the baby is born.
- Babymoon can also be used for a trip taken by a couple even before they get pregnant (whaaaaat?!?!). As long as the trip is intended to be a final romantic fling before venturing into parenthood, the term babymoon applies. (This sounds like a shallow excuse for a regular old vacation to me, but what do I know.)
Now, I think the original usage of the word is incredibly sweet. In the same way that a honeymoon (the word from which babymoon is derived) is the period just after the wedding when the newlywed couple “enjoys each other’s company” (*wink wink), a babymoon is the period just after the birth when the parents begin bonding with their new child. Of course, just as honeymoons have become synonymous with “let’s go somewhere romantic and far away (read: expensive),” babymoons have as well. Except this doesn’t make sense, because only the parents (okay, and their unborn child) are going!
Aren’t soon-to-be parents supposed to be happy that their baby is coming? Then why are they taking “one last vacation together” before the baby is born? This seems incongruous, as in “we are so happy our baby is coming, let’s celebrate our last moments of childlessness!”
Do I want couples to enjoy each other while they are without children? Of course. (And with children too but I know it’s not the same.) But don’t use having kids as an excuse to go on vacation. Because I will tell your kids "your parents went on vacation before you were born specifically to celebrate the fact that you weren't born yet" and then they will have a complex.
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